- Stress is the result of not feeling control in any area of your life. Your ability to manage stress is to gain control of the situation. There is no amount of help or plan that will help you- if you feel can’t manage stress.
- Between running a few businesses, having a professional career, and managing a few social media accounts- the best advice I have before any others- is to ENJOY THE PROCESS. Take breaths, exercise, and eat right. Most importantly- you must have a positive perspective about your special day, and don’t let yourself fall victim to the need to feel stressed.
- If you aren’t into the details- delegate. A planner and coordinator is always the safest route. Family and friends are never advised to be your go-to. It does work out occasionally, but you must have an emotionally intelligent relationship that can handle feedback and tough love. If you can’t tell this person “no” without a cosmic explosion- you’re not choosing wisely.
- Know your partner! People show love and attention in different ways. Blaming, shaming, or even getting upset because your partner doesn’t want to look at the difference between red and crimson napkins is usually unwarranted. This conversation goes further than just planning a wedding, it’s a topic of relationship management. My wife and I discussed precisely what each of us were responsible for, and then went on our own way. She planned the entire event with help, I managed the budget, and we worked perfectly together.
- Set aside time every morning or evening to move the plan forward. The longer you have to get married, the less time you will need to devote. Another reason a planner is so important is they can take some of this stress off for you. Please, don’t be that person that is oblivious; thinking that everything will just magically come together. This is setting you up for failure. Too many times we see couples that go along without a stress in the World. Then, all of a sudden, a week before the wedding- all hell breaks loose.
- Be extremely cautious on how you communicate with your vendors. A harsh and demanding relationship makes everyone uncomfortable and frightened to make wrong decisions with you. What this does is makes people avoid you at all costs, limit interactions, and do everything without love and joy in their work. If you have a problem, professionally communicate the problem. While business owners should have every ability to handle confirmation- you’re ultimately going to lose out in the end. The right vendors are yearning for great relationships so they can feel free to work with you and push their talents for each event.
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